3 Things You Should Understand Before You Go Looking for Love

It’s going to be hard. I mean really, really hard

Romance is a pretty big commitment in of itself even before there are even any signs of marriage. The real trick is to stick to your guns and take everything fate has in store for you and your SO – it’s all natural and character building. This shouldn’t be taken as just a warning against external factors that may ruin a blossoming romance, there are plenty of self-induced failings that can lead to ruin.


One must accept the fact that there will be low points to contrast the high ones and that these low points are unavoidable so a romance must be braced against them. Not everyone is ready for love just yet and they mostly don’t know they’ll be but rest assured if you’ve accepted that love is more than just enjoying its benefits, you’re surely on the right track to getting there.


Be Honest, Looking for Love is About Your Needs

We’ve idealized love and romance so much in the media, in our culture and in our own interactions that we forget that it’s just an evolutionary adaptation to get two people to mate and procreate. Now, this straight-up bold-face view on love may not be what someone want to hear as some will insist that their love, at least, is real and is unique because it’s not about the sex. Let me tell you, it most assuredly is.


See, gay couples, lesbian couples and such may not seem to have fallen in love for the purposes of procreation but they are the outliers, as the standard heterosexual relationship is triggered by chemical reactions in the brain. What this means is that love is primarily a selfish act as we seek our own gratification and sexual validation from the very act of seeking a partner.


Two people who engage in a relationship are merely engaging in fulfilling each other’s needs mutual so that both parties benefit from the arrangement. This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t elevate romance to such heights, it just means by accepting the honest truths about it, we are more ready for it than most others.


There’s a Big Chance You’re Going to Fail

As with number one of this list, this one is a reality we tend to gloss over due to the romance-goggles. When you’re in the heat of the moment you tend to forget all inhibitions and go head-first into whatever you’ve set your mind to. Love is no different as our capacity for logical decision-making can be suppressed by the amount of euphoric bliss our brain is currently experiencing.


No matter how much our current partner seems like to be “The One” we must be grounded in logic in our life decisions that would affect us adversely like insurance and property right if ever a relationship fails. We don’t wish to have a romance go sour on us but we must certainly entertain plans for just in case it does.


An Uncertain Circumstance

In a world full of uncertainties, we always keep it to a point in our lives to live it without expecting anything at all from others. Though honestly, it is quite remarkable on how we thought that the people whom we trusted so much, the people who we thought that will always be there, those people whom we thought that will always be just one call away will always, ALWAYS be there, available and just like a superhero, always to the rescue. But then, when things and circumstances happen, we were proven wrong. And just like life, love is also full of its own mysteries, full of its own uncertainties. And with those mysteries, there comes the challenges, the dares, and the undaunted emotions that we kept hidden for such a very long time to share with that special person we’re bonded with to get along or accept those uncertainties, those circumstances that had always been lurking around without us even knowing. With those uncertainties, there lies courage and strength. The courage and strength, those emotions that we kept in our own secret cellar, the emotions and desire that had been waiting for a long period of time for someone to unlock and to set free.


Before falling deeply into love, we have to go to a certain point in our lives and give that certain individual the chance to get to know you and for you to get to know them, get to know each other’s deeper thoughts, know each other’s deeper feelings. Thus, dating comes in. In every aspect of a person’s relationship, or any relationship that is, dating had been the key to get to know the person, any person better. Dating doesn’t only mean you get to go out with a person you’re interested with, no. Dating may come in any form. May it be dating with a friend, a sister or one of your family circles, a colleague or maybe someone you just met through a friend. It had been made to a point that dating was and always will be the key to any successful relationship, may it be the beginning or the end.


As you can see, a person’s life is full of mysteries and uncertainties for honestly, you can never tell what’s going to happen after a minute or even seconds of your life. And one of those uncertainties is the chance to meet someone you can spend the rest of your life with. That certain chance, or you can say circumstance  rather, will give you the most life changing events of your life. That circumstance that was made by God can be created once you’ve opened yourself up and let it be free with someone and to spend all your happiest and most miserable days o your life. And the one thing to do so is giving someone a chance to BE a part of your life, giving someone even just a mere hour or two to get to know you, get to know your thoughts and by doing so at least you haven’t been selfish, you’re just testing circumstances life gives you especially when it comes to love.…